Multiple events occur in our life out of which most phenomenon seems to be unreal. These are beyond our predictions and often create a feeling of void, harm or personal injury.
In the 20th century, the methods of Philosophical counselling for dealing with daily issues of life gains popularity. This counselling is an act of guiding. It is a personal relationship with clients. The counsellor and clients develop a kind of meaningful relationship. The counsellor engages in a kind of dialogues and develops a kind of free thoughts. Such thoughts are free from any biases or pre-considered judgements. They are free from suffering and problems. Philosophical counselling develops a variety of ideas. It makes us aware of our thinking pattern and our ways of looking at different things.
Philosophical studies can provide insights into the difficulties of life. It helps to solve some of the issues of life. Philosophical counselling takes into the hypothesis that many of our problems arise from difficulties in understanding the meaning of life. Lou Marinoff has written the book on ‘How philosophy can change your life?’ In this, professor Lou urges not to accept victimhood as the by the product of modern human life. Professor Marinoff has also said that we could take effective measures to deal with the uncertain change in our life.
In order to deal with the uncertainties of life, we need to understand that human problems are complex. Some problems could not be resolved even when the concepts of psychology and philosophy are applied. There are tools in philosophical counselling which could be used to determine the closest solutions to uncertain problems. To deal with uncertain problems. Here I will mention some of measures.
- Remove cause, Remove suffering
We all know that sufferings could be removed by removing the cause. Suppose we are facing a problem with a particular place, a person, or nature of things. Then we could resolve our problems by changing the conditions upon which a place, or person, or any object is affecting us.
- Parable of second arrow- Buddha
Buddha says that ‘In life, we can’t always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first to which we have to cope up with.’
It’s not always the cause of sufferings that hurt us, but the reactions to such kind of sufferings bring harm. Suppose a person A unintentionally says a negative word to a person B. In case, B ignores the words said by A, then there would not be any sufferings to either people. In case, B reacts to those words, then both A and B will suffer because of reactions.
So suffering is optional, we should be selective to our problems. We could select our problems as well as the cause for which we are facing issues. After proper analysing of the uncertain problems, we could apply the philosophical measures to it.
3. Take ownership of your problems- Stoics
Now applying the stoics philosophy for dealing with the uncertain problems. For this, I may take out some of the quotes to reflect our sufferings from uncertain problems.
We should we satisfied with what we do and have and take pleasure in simple things.
If we are miserable with ourselves, we will be miserable wherever we go.
There are certain events that happen outside one’s control
Stoicism also wants to take greater responsibility, greater ownership for the things that we can actually do. Some problems are often uncertain like sudden health problems, death in the family, disaster, accidents, and so on. In such cases, we can’t do anything, but we could definitely deal with our reactions to it. Remember it’s always the second arrow that hurts more. Thus, it’s necessary to examine the reactions, feelings, attitude towards problems, and meditate upon it. Overthinking on a problem is also a problem. To avoid overthinking we need to focus on the present situation and circumstances. The uncertainty is a challenge in itself. However, a proper methods to counter with uncertainty would generate a feeling of well being in us.