Successful Relationship is a product of WE time & ME time

Successful Relationship is a product of WE time & ME time

This article is purposefully written for those who are in a kind of sick relationship and don’t know the way out…

Relationship turns bitter when there is a lack of time management between partners. More than 50% breakups and divorce occurs because couples fail to spend quality time together. With no time- there is no understanding, no feelings of love, no motivation to continue, and in a rarest case, no purpose to live. Thus, here we really see the dangerous consequences of lack of time management among partners.

Lack of time management is due to two issues which could fail any relationships-

  1. ME Time= Privacy

Privacy is a precious gift for the development of inner potentials. One needs to keep learning and growing so as to keep up with the competitive times. Most partner interfere so much in others matter that they forget to provide the essential time one might need for overall well-being. This generates a feeling of suffocation that makes others feel like running away somewhere else.

ME time is the most important time for personal understanding and knowing of self. In a committed relationship, an unbearable interference takes away the meaningfulness of life. This results into restricted self -development which leads into a failure to use one’s conscience. The feeling of non-knowing kills the person from within. The feeling of being unable to decide for ‘self’ mentally paralyses the person. This is the reason any kind of relationship works only when a person pays enough attention to underlying passion and self-growth. ME time is the idea of self-healing. And healing is always required for attaining balance in between body, mind, and soul.      

  1. WE Time= staying together

People believe that living together can solve any types of problems in relationships. On contrary, I believe it’s a wrong perception. Despite live-in-together, most couple fails to enter into a long- term relationship. What could be the reason for this failure?

It is because they are not able to deliver proper time to each other. Couples may spend the necessary time together- such as eating, living, house management. In all this, they fail to dedicate the essential time of togetherness. They fail to care, pamper, eliminate addictions (mobile phone, smoking, bad habits, etc.), show interest in others passions, share feelings, and exchange ideas.

We are all aware that just planting a tree is not enough. On a regular basis, we need to give water, fertilizers, protection against storms, remove weeds, do basic cutting, and so on. In a similar way, just entering into a relationship is not enough, one needs to show continuous love, care, proper understanding, and balanced attention.

The combination of WE time and ME time could play the perfect role in sustaining a healthy relationship. I hope this article would provide the couples with an advantage of both being together to share love, time, emotion and being in a private zone to finish work target, fulfill passion, and enjoy personal care sessions.      

5 comments

Unless and until both are involved in helping the other to his/her best version all these deliberate efforts are not going to help much longer. I have seen divorce in the age of 50-60 in Gujarat.
So my suggestion is that have an agreement that when things turn sour both will get separated and enjoy their freedom, but if that experiment fails then they both will live together again as husband-wife or live in prayer or as a friend.
Now there is no need to give fake smile to and take pseudo care of other partner just to save the relationship. Heart to heart relationship in any form will succeed.
Only the one who has lost a war/partner/business, knows the real reason behind failure. All others are just speculations. But then no one is ready to take advice from such person!

Osho suggested it, and in my life I found it right solution. I have observed near about all couples facing some kind of issues but they keep dragging for sake of society or children’s marriage or parental pressure etc. This result in poor health, psychological problems etc and in long run they are now unable to even meditate. So the device that could have liberated them is beyond their reach near fag end of the life.

This is such a thoughtful article explaining the various aspects of keeping a relationship blossoming to its full potential. I love the fact that you emphasized the importance Me Time in it as people sometimes lose themselves trying to be in a relationship and keeping up with its nuances.
A quick read that leaves an impact and makes the reader reflect.

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